I am blessed with the best parents in this world not solely for the usual soul good reasons but also for their ability to satiate a demand that I often live in oblivion with. So,
I never had to ask them for anything therefore to not ask is a non-ignorant feature of my character sketch. I often walk upto my parents my father in specific as my mother has a plant cutting to graft or a new boutique to explore, I ask daddy "was I reckless as a kid?" now who doesn't like t
heir children? in a pendulum like movement he nods his neck in total denial . No way! Now that's the point I wish to make. Every parent thinks his child is better than the other but is his opinion in compliance with the first world society?
I am afraid not!
I was gifted an iphone 4s sometime back, then my dad who always feels extra love for me despite me doing nothing like NOTHING gifted an upgraded version of that phone on my last birthday. I am very sadly conceding my first ever iPhone couldn't last long after that because unfortunately it lost its life to a ten year old. The scratches on the new refrigerator at a relative's house screeched in silence at the harassment by some four year olds. My dad had to bear the pain of his thumb being crushed in the car door that was apparently Forced closed by another some year old on a chilly january afternoon. In any restaurant that you can afford to go, there are cranky kids demanding everything even a big bottle of a fruit champagne. In the food court of a mall i see kids eating meals like a 25year old man with beard to maintain and a sperm count to check on. My seven year old cousin has a girlfriend something he is too proud of . The little girls aren't little anymore they are the next big thing with zero tolerance. There are so many of them that I'd write a separate article about it in days to come.Do I sound harsh? they are kids! immature, innocent, but INTIMIDATING yes!
The sun bathing ugly aunties aka mother-in-laws say " aaj cal ke bache aise hi hote hain", true, we now can get kids out of a test tube or an unknown woman's vagina, or through a sperm filled injection commonly called insemination and proudly call them ours but children are born children and we socialise them to be stupid children. This exactly is the subject matter of this write up. The contemporary period laced with computers and smartphones and internet had to breed smart children but their over smartness costed me my phone. They were expected to be well informed but the IT has robbed them of their IQ hypnotising them with stupid online games. These kids are the epitome of mechanics of mannerisms where they fold hands touch feet say thank you and sorry because they have been taught to be rot learners after all 2*2=4 . The current situation is like using a new faucet in a renovated bathroom .You just have to sensationalise it and booooom there's water! too much to wash your hands awkwardly nudging you to wash your face as well. Thus stupid children are a consequence of a problem whose roots lie in their preferential upbringing.
The wife today is a well educated woman who is conscious of her rights national as well as global, her husband is but of course a man of virtue decently aware of the empowerment scenario and a firm believer of equality of sex thank you sir Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar all because of your efforts. Marriage is an obligation more profound an institution, and woman refuses to submit to the subordination by her man. When these two learned people get married its presumed they will bear good children with a rational approach to life. Life is not lived on assumptions alas! because the doctor herself feels pregnancy is a disease that needs complete bed rest.The engineer has still not engineered the task of breastfeeding and since the child is a joint asset the husband is ordered to assist the manager wife sans discrimination, prejudice or ill will. My child is my pampered baby babu shona no rona because I the doting mother change your potty soaked pampers and rub your bums to shiny glory all day long.
We don't understand the concept of pampering. hugs and kisses are gestures of love and following the mostly stupid demands of your child is this century's enslavement,Its not pampering in any form. A child has to be loved for he deserves it but you have to set limits too. When mothers crib about their disobedient children and complain "they don't listen to me" I feel its an indication to introspect. When you are busy listening to your phone more than listening to your child the child imitates you and listens to that lifeless phone more ardently. When the same mothers worry about their children not eating anything I wonder how can they even feel that, my dog whined without fail when he felt hungry ,your child is blessed with a functional vocal chord and an ability to understand learn and speak! open your eyes and ears later but mind first. Again,when you say your child is the best understand the consequence of the same. This best feeling shall prevail over him when he surrounds himself with people better than him and believe me, your illogical sigh of hope will throw him into the daftness of his being making him a tiny subject of either mockery or hate, at times both.
The persistent problem of inflation and irritating kids is the fact that parents don't talk to their children. They don't reason them, and often rubbish their why and what. The concept of generation gap surfaces too soon today because parents do not connect with their child, they believe in idealism but fail to impart integrity.This probably is the reason why today's children are growing up to be ungrateful, self-centred, disobedient individuals. So,Next time when your child makes an unreasonable demand try to give him reasons for your refusal rather than giving that hi-five on his cheek or humiliating him with that "sasta Rakshas "look in public when he misbehaves. You are raising an individual who is a reflection of not him but you! set good examples and build up that communication channel strong enough for your child to reach out to you in his phase of crisis. Parenting is not easy, parenting is not perfect simply because "to err is human" but then to learn and rectify is every bit of human too. Make it easy for him to realise the subtlety of the right and wrong especially when you would not be around.
The persistent problem of inflation and irritating kids is the fact that parents don't talk to their children. They don't reason them, and often rubbish their why and what. The concept of generation gap surfaces too soon today because parents do not connect with their child, they believe in idealism but fail to impart integrity.This probably is the reason why today's children are growing up to be ungrateful, self-centred, disobedient individuals. So,Next time when your child makes an unreasonable demand try to give him reasons for your refusal rather than giving that hi-five on his cheek or humiliating him with that "sasta Rakshas "look in public when he misbehaves. You are raising an individual who is a reflection of not him but you! set good examples and build up that communication channel strong enough for your child to reach out to you in his phase of crisis. Parenting is not easy, parenting is not perfect simply because "to err is human" but then to learn and rectify is every bit of human too. Make it easy for him to realise the subtlety of the right and wrong especially when you would not be around.
P.S.: A lot many wouldn't agree much with me precisely because i am no parent, and do not shoulder the responsibility of raising a child or may be because i have had the audacity to question you on something i have no direct link with. You can think to yourself "jab tumhara time ayega tab dekhenge", I wrote what i felt if you identify with the above issue introspect if you don't introspect anyway. Celebrate childhood not the chaos that it brings.
signing off
srishti.
