I write because I want to write but I am not Mr Bachchan
What makes you sad? love found but lost, an ugly corporate boss, nagging parents, or a dysfunctional social life…what?
There are many reasons that you may be able to count which makes you happy but the optimistic bug in our mind refrains us from thinking about what makes us sad.
"Don't be sad everything will fall in place when the time is right. Okay! so, where is this shop from where i can purchase the right time? Everything happens for a reason, and whatever happens, happens for good. Yes may be! but i am sad in this very moment, how do i look for "the" reason that can make me feel happy about what has happened?.Why do we consume failure like poison and feel sad? why can't we accept, learn and rebuild? what makes us sad is our fear of failure but Failures are as much a part of us as success is. Economically speaking, they are complimentary to each other.
What is success and how do we define failure but? normally if an individual is earning lots of money he is successful, but if he is not content with his job profile or is in a profession by chance he is undoubtedly a failure. Man is the most engineered creation of god, he is born with the ability to learn and the courage to rectify. Every time he fails he makes another attempt to correct his mistakes, he chases success sometimes for himself, sometimes for his parents and family but most other times for the larger society. Driven by the temptation of being called successful he refuses to identify his true self . Failures are exasperating but isn't success exhausting? We allow failures to affect us because we want to fit into the framework of the society we are born into. The society preaches success and worships the successful . We don't praise a child who scores 75% in his board exams we judge another who scored 95% but failed to qualify the entrance exam, what are we heading to? We suggest people over what they should and what they shouldn't without introspecting our own selves,"do not waste your time preparing for so and so exam you are good at so and so go ahead with it". There are fishes, who try to climb a tree, few may die half way through and the few that sustain to reach the top would die too. The society calls such people silly but they aren't silly, they are those who dreamt and dared to make it their reality against all odds. We admire the athletes that have made the country proud in 2016 Paralympics but they know one amongst five in us had failed to support them. Failure or success depends upon how happy you are with your life, you go around the world and call yourself a traveller, you own a DSLR and call yourself a photographer I have a pen therefore I call myself a writer, isn't this enough a parameter for us to accept or we still want the scale of fail and pass to measure success?
Life is more than the idea of failure and even bigger than the idea of success. I consider myself to be the most glorious failure of the decade, not because I flunked a class in school, or have not qualified the most difficult exam of the country but I am a failure because I allowed others to underestimate my potential , I gave them the power to judge my intelligence and that made me sad. This sadness was more due to my disconnect with my conscience. When you decide to take up a task to prove yourself to others you tend to fail. Thus, failures make you sad because you look at yourself through the societal prism oblivious to the mirror of your mind. You define yourself by the way they define you, hence you are dumb if they think you are dumb, and you are beautiful if they believe in the beauty of your character,character varying objectively. Likewise you are a failure because they think you are one. A person's salary, the brand of clothes,a car, home etc does not define success, neither does the red line in the report card or a second hand scooter describe failure .We are a group of modern apes who imitate each other to the extent that different becomes the next normal like boyfriend jeans these days. This society is harsh when it treats you the way you dislike and the same society is great if it gives you the opportunity to nag someone who is above the limits of failure and success. To reach the ultimate destination is not success but to be content with your efforts, happy with your existence and your ability to run when no one is willing to walk is how I define success. Life has a bigger mission than merely attaining the glory of being something or nothing and its called "MOKSHA".
P:S: Industrial revolution advanced the English Economy, and the Boston tea party changed the outlook of America. A country progresses by the courage of its people to take risks, accept failures and celebrate success.#changeyourperception
signing off
srishti
